Flirting

Flirting. It's a common thing. You or someone you know have experienced flirting with someone at one point or another, I am sure. Myself included. So anyway, I Wikipedia the term 'flirting' and this is what I got that explained the nature of 'flirting'.

"Flirting is often used as a means of expressing interest and gauging the other person's interest in courtship, which can continue into long-term relationships. Alternatively, it may simply be a prelude to casual sex with no continuing relationship. In other situations, it may be done simply for immediate entertainment, with no intention of developing any further relationship. This type of flirting sometimes faces disapproval from others, either because it can be misinterpreted as more serious, or it may be viewed as "cheating" if the person is already in a romantic relationship with someone else."

To me, flirting is just a way a girl/boy communicate with the opposite sex. Be it as interest in courtship or just for 'immediate entertainment'. I personally do it too. BUT I try to make sure that my flirting with the opposite sex does not get 'recorded' or caught by anyone whom I might be interested in at that time. I would not flirt in place such as open forums and Facebook Walls. That just leaves the trail of bread crumbs all over the place.

I mean how would it look when someone you're courting or interested in, catches you flirting with someone else? I'm pretty sure that would just boggle his/her mind a little. You said you like someone else, right? Why are you even flirting with someone else? Shouldn't you be more interested in flirting with THE ONE that you trying to court? I personally thinks that such careless flirting will just put anyone off even more than any bad habits can. I accept that some people are flirtatious by nature but still limitations should be exercise when doing it, right?

Also, I think however flirtatious one person could be, surely there are occasion when meaningless flirting are mistaken for the real deal. And being a girl myself, I feel that girls are more prone to mistaking such harmless flirting to be a real courting or may even encourage development of any sort of romantic feelings towards that guy. No offence girls. Just saying.

Compare "Of course, I miss you" and "Yes, I do miss you" and "Hey, haven't seen you for awhile. I miss you." and "I'm missing you here. You're out of Malaysia for so long."

I feel that between these four, 2 gives me the feeling that the person is missing a friend and the other 2 is more intimate in the sense that that he/she misses the other person in a more romantic way.

I have this friend, a guy who is a self proclaim a flirt by nature and has openly flirted with another girl (hereof 'the other girl') when he said he is interested in someone else (hereof 'the one'). He says to me that when he said that he misses the other girl on the Wall, it was just for play and fun. But he really does misses the one in HIS HEART and that such things are not needed to be said. Which make me wonder why should the fun and play misses be said OUT LOUD for the world and not to mention, friends to see and the one that he actually misses is kept in the dark corners of his heart. Then how would the one know about it? Is she expected to know what the hell this guy is thinking IN HIS HEART? And not only that, what would she think if she would to see that message on the Wall to the other girl posted by this guy? I bet she be like, "Wow there, he must be just playing me around for a fool all this time when he already has someone else.". And whooshh... that might be opportunity flying out of the window for this guy. Bye bye...

Yea, I still think flirting can be fun at times despite of what I said above but I also think that there is a fine fine line between fun and play and the real deal. Mistakes and miscommunication can happen. Feelings may develop even when no intention of naturing the feelings by the flirting party. And this will just create more problems.

So, where flirting is concern, don't get 'caught' red-handed. Might just give someone a wrong idea.