Flirting

Flirting. It's a common thing. You or someone you know have experienced flirting with someone at one point or another, I am sure. Myself included. So anyway, I Wikipedia the term 'flirting' and this is what I got that explained the nature of 'flirting'.

"Flirting is often used as a means of expressing interest and gauging the other person's interest in courtship, which can continue into long-term relationships. Alternatively, it may simply be a prelude to casual sex with no continuing relationship. In other situations, it may be done simply for immediate entertainment, with no intention of developing any further relationship. This type of flirting sometimes faces disapproval from others, either because it can be misinterpreted as more serious, or it may be viewed as "cheating" if the person is already in a romantic relationship with someone else."

To me, flirting is just a way a girl/boy communicate with the opposite sex. Be it as interest in courtship or just for 'immediate entertainment'. I personally do it too. BUT I try to make sure that my flirting with the opposite sex does not get 'recorded' or caught by anyone whom I might be interested in at that time. I would not flirt in place such as open forums and Facebook Walls. That just leaves the trail of bread crumbs all over the place.

I mean how would it look when someone you're courting or interested in, catches you flirting with someone else? I'm pretty sure that would just boggle his/her mind a little. You said you like someone else, right? Why are you even flirting with someone else? Shouldn't you be more interested in flirting with THE ONE that you trying to court? I personally thinks that such careless flirting will just put anyone off even more than any bad habits can. I accept that some people are flirtatious by nature but still limitations should be exercise when doing it, right?

Also, I think however flirtatious one person could be, surely there are occasion when meaningless flirting are mistaken for the real deal. And being a girl myself, I feel that girls are more prone to mistaking such harmless flirting to be a real courting or may even encourage development of any sort of romantic feelings towards that guy. No offence girls. Just saying.

Compare "Of course, I miss you" and "Yes, I do miss you" and "Hey, haven't seen you for awhile. I miss you." and "I'm missing you here. You're out of Malaysia for so long."

I feel that between these four, 2 gives me the feeling that the person is missing a friend and the other 2 is more intimate in the sense that that he/she misses the other person in a more romantic way.

I have this friend, a guy who is a self proclaim a flirt by nature and has openly flirted with another girl (hereof 'the other girl') when he said he is interested in someone else (hereof 'the one'). He says to me that when he said that he misses the other girl on the Wall, it was just for play and fun. But he really does misses the one in HIS HEART and that such things are not needed to be said. Which make me wonder why should the fun and play misses be said OUT LOUD for the world and not to mention, friends to see and the one that he actually misses is kept in the dark corners of his heart. Then how would the one know about it? Is she expected to know what the hell this guy is thinking IN HIS HEART? And not only that, what would she think if she would to see that message on the Wall to the other girl posted by this guy? I bet she be like, "Wow there, he must be just playing me around for a fool all this time when he already has someone else.". And whooshh... that might be opportunity flying out of the window for this guy. Bye bye...

Yea, I still think flirting can be fun at times despite of what I said above but I also think that there is a fine fine line between fun and play and the real deal. Mistakes and miscommunication can happen. Feelings may develop even when no intention of naturing the feelings by the flirting party. And this will just create more problems.

So, where flirting is concern, don't get 'caught' red-handed. Might just give someone a wrong idea.

Handsfree.

Right. Handsfree. I think this word, many of you are familiar with it. It just simply means that we don't have to use our hands to control or handle the device/equipment. Most commonly used to refer to a mobile phone headset or a function. Phone company will try to promote their phone by saying that the phone have build-in handsfree with noise cancelling or voice recognition or many other extravagant functions of sorts, that will makes our lives easier, much more convenient and not forgetting fun too...

... So that must be where the fun part comes from when I see people holding their phones with one hand to their mouth (presumably that the handsfree function i.e. loudspeakers are turned on) and the other hand on the wheel, trying to 'expertly' maneuver their car in traffic (and sometimes weaving in and out of traffic). That must be some major skills that I have failed to acquire in driving school. Either that or my driving instructor have short changed me when he was teaching me to drive. I think I might need some refresher course on the 'in' way of driving nowadays.

Oh and I have this Aunt who likes (or loves, I don't know) to talk on her mobile with the loudspeaker. She will make or answer a call and activate the loudspeaker. She will then proceed to shout at (and back at) her phone so that the other person on the other end will hear her loud and clear. My Mom will find this very unnerving because she feels that someone on the other side might be overhearing on the conversation. I have once commented on this because she was shouting away in the house like we, the people around would like to listen to her whole conversation. And she actually gave me an extremely blank look and said "Really???" when I said to her that generally people around don't want to know what was her conversation with the other person was. Either she was being really sarcastic or just plain blur... Knowing my Aunt (or so I hope I know her well enough) that she was just being blur. So till today she is still doing it.

So I personally think the handsfree/loudspeaker functions have been spoiling some of us. If drivers said they can't hear the other person on the other end through the loudspeaker, I'll say call them back later or use a proper headset. A bluetooth headset would be prefect. Without the wiring hassle. Holding the phone with one hand and the other on the wheel still don't count as using 'handsfree' to talk on the phone while driving. And as for people like my Aunt, I have no more comments. I don't think I'll be able to understand her logic either way if she try to explains it to me.